Re-decoding the Dress Code: Clarity for Every Occasion

Back in 2022, we wrote a blog all about decoding the dress code for events and weddings. A lot has changed since then, including trends, expectations, and even the way people interpret ‘casual’ versus ‘formal.’ Therefore, we thought it was the perfect time to revisit the topic and provide you with a fresh update.

We see it all the time in invitations, weddings, and event websites; these are very confusing and sometimes contradictory descriptors being used to tell guests how they should dress.  And on the day of the event, the person hosting it is left wondering why people didn’t come dressed as expected. We recently saw this when the bride asked everyone to dress in black tie country attire, and guests arrived in everything from formal gowns and tuxedos to short, patterned dresses, dressy pants, and button-down shirts with suspenders, as well as one guest in a denim dress.

First, let’s address how you, as a host, can set aside any misconceptions and help your guests understand what you mean. Be as specific and intentional as possible when deciding on the dress code. Take into account the location of your event, the weather, and the tone you want to set. The table below breaks down popular dress codes to make things easy for you.

Dress Code

Description

Casual

Relaxed, but not sloppy (summer dresses, khaki pants, collared shirt)

Cocktail

Chic, party-ready attire (knee-midi length, suit and tie)

Semi Formal

Dressy long-length dresses, dark suits, and a tie

Formal or Black Tie Optional

Floor-length gowns, tuxes are optional, black suits

Black Tie

Formal gowns, tuxedos

Themed/Festive

Must give guests directions without limiting creativity

The confusing part of any dress code comes when the host wants to mix the dress codes with a theme or when you provide too many options. For example, that bride who wanted black tie country? Have your guests come in black tie, but let them know that they can accessorize with a country theme twist. A bolo tie instead of a classic bow tie, cowboy boots (dressy!), and of course, a cowboy hat. Ladies, a formal gown, but pair it with cowboy boots, a cowboy hat, or even a clutch that has a more rustic feel. In order to send the right message, include a link to a Pinterest board that has examples of how you want them to dress.

That cocktail party that they are throwing outdoors during evening hours, where the dress code is titled Tampa garden chic? Think polished, breathable, flowy midi or maxi dresses for women. Lightweight suits or blazers for the men. Elegant but not overly formal, dress to impress with tropical Florida vibes. Ladies, avoid stilettos; you’ll sink in the grass. Men, skip heavy materials, think linen or cotton.

Guests, I beg of you, if you are unsure, ask. Text your host, send them pictures of what you are thinking to wear, and when in doubt, err slightly dressier. You always want to be remembered as being one of the best dressed and not the opposite.

Remember, clarity leads to confidence and cohesion. Make sure you are clear as to what you are asking of your guests, and when in doubt, a picture is worth a thousand words!